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A Daddy's Letter to His Little One

Dear Cutie-Pie,

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be keptinterested, because he knows you are interesting:

I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.

I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

You.

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.

Your eternally interested guy,

Daddy

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy :)

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer.

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. “By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

..about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. 

You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it.

[Courtesy: http://www.purposefairy.com/3308/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy]

Don’t ring twice!!!!

If he misses u, he'll call u... don't go wondering if he saw your missed call or not!

If he wants 2 c u he'll make plans with u... don't go chasing after him!

If he loves u he'll make sure you know.... don't go digging in his deep inside!

If he believes u are the one, he'll find u & will never let u go!! Stop analyzing his behaviour.

Stop doubting his intention. Don't ring twice!!!!!!!!

Note: Copied from a friend’s FB status

My First Piece of Art

Hey guys,

I tried my hand at painting..  its an oil painting depicting “Nature & its Glory” .. Let me know what do you think about this painting… Expert comments are welcome :-)

Dream Boss

Understand the fine line between being the mentor and being the devil…….

It takes more than just patience to understand, motivate and mentor a team the right way. Here are a few ways how to cross that thin line and stand behind the intimidating table and still make a strong team:

1. Relationship with former peers – In the transition from being one of them to being their boss, you must communicate rightly that you need their support to make this work. Maintain the dignity of your new position but acknowledge your former peers’ role in making your success happen.

2. Define Roles – This will help keep misunderstandings at bay and save much energy and time. Begin by describing the job to your employees. Make them understand their basic responsibilities and how each one’s role is important for the team. Discover the key result areas (KRAs) of each members of your team and also of the team as a whole. Giving the right job to the right person will not only bring you better results but also allow the employees to sharpen their self-image as professionals.

3. Articulate expectations – Be one who can articulate expectations, meet goals and still not overburden the team. Make this a participative process. You can communicate to your team through discussions, group meetings, emails, etc. These will make the team feel that they have a say in the day-to-day activities. While you define the goals, the challenge is to steer the brainstorming in such a way that the definitions come from the people themselves. It should appear to them as if they are working towards something which they have set out for themselves. This will help increase their sense of ownership, making them perform better.

4. Delegate Work – Delegation is important to prevent yourself from being overburdened. It will groom your employees from being dependent to being independent. What one must remember is that while you delegate authority, the responsibility still remains with the boss.

5. Offer Your Feedback – The classic rule is to give positive feedback first and the negative one later. Never mince your words, a direct approach is always better. While you must give a pat on the back in public, its better to offer criticism in private. Negative feedback is crucial for individuals development. The choice of words play an important role, one must ensure the msg is conveyed without being offensive.

6. Learn to Listen – To be an effective listener one needs to suspend judgement in order to look at the matter in an objective light. As a leader, you must curb the desire to pre-empt the conversation in order to prove your point. Always allow the team to speak out first. It assures the team they will be heard before a decision is taken and will help them trust the final decision.

7. Set Examples – A boss must set benchmarks for her team. You simply take the responsibility of the delegated task not performed well. If YOU are not ready to follow a rule, rest assured that the others will follow suit. A good boss is one who is not over and above his team.

8. Cultivate Team Chemistry - Team Chemistry can be developed only when you work as a part of the team. Listening to the team, asking their inputs and constantly mentoring the team are some of the time-tested methods to develop chemistry. If a conflict within team arises and it is trivial, it is better to stay out of it as a boss. But, if it is big enough to affect the unity of the team, then you need to listen to both parties individually before you make a judgement.

Being the boss anywhere is lonely, but with a little effort you can make this climb easier, mentor new leaders on your way and yield better result along with your team.

Add wow to empty walls

1. Define yourself:  Hang things that define you or have a special meaning. A collection of souvenirs, momentos, flowers, stars, coloured papers cut into shapes, baskets, plates, clocks, fabrics are some ideas.

2. Let your room speak: Convey a message in the form of writings on the wall. Paint one liners, single words like Relax, Believe, Dream on the walls. Or you can paint on a cardboard and hang, type on a computer and take print outs, cut alphabets and use as stencil.

3. Picture perfect: Hit the web and download free pictures. Some of the best websites include:

- nationalgeographic.com/printposter for wildlife and landscape posters

- vintageprintable.com/wordpress where you can find hundreds of pictures.

4. Memories: Get life-size posters printed of your family members. Create artistic photo frames or collages of your favourite photos. These can be hung in the hallway, around a door or behind the dining table.

Missing You…

You were on my mind when I woke up this morning, remembering your smile
I guess the next time I'll see your face will take a little while


I was remembering your arms around me, love the way they always feel warm
With you by my side, I completely feel no harm

I was remembering your voice, makes my heart skip a beat
But without you baby, my whole body's weak

I was remembering our times, the good and the bad
The funny times when you cheered me up, and especially the sad

Remembering your eyes, how they always meet mine
Remembering all the little things you do to make my life worthwhile

I was wondering when we'll be together, just us two
I guess I'm missing you more than I usually do.

courtesy: poemslovers.com